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Do You Still Keep In Touch With People From School?

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There's a reasonable age range around these forums, so I think this question applies to most people, as I think I'm safe in saying most of you are at least several years post-school.

I still sort of keep in touch with my gang from school and meet up with them a few times a year, but they all lead completely and utterly different lives to me; they are all career-orientated, very comfortable financially, largely settled down with partners, and some are starting families. All of this is in polar opposite to the way my life has unravelled.

This is by no means a lament; merely something I have noticed over the past few years of my life. Whenever I used to bump into old people from my year in school, they all seem to still be strongly associated with who they knocked around with at school. Are you?

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I only really keep in touch with one person from school and he's still one of my best friends. I'm still in contact with a few guys from my previous school via Facebook but i haven't seen them in years as they're scattered around the country or abroad.

My best mate is like Phill described, financially stable, career driven etc but i still get on really well with him and even went on holiday with him and our respective partners earlier in the year to see one of my other friends.

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The only person I keep in touch with properly from school is JJ because I was in a band with him for near enough ten years and largely my year at school was full of tits. Not good tits, either (or blue tits).

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Ive still got 4 mates from school that I catch up with from time to time, its tricky as we are all in varying situations involving marriage and kids but we usually manage something every few months or so, going to some shitty gig or other, more for an excuse to socialise than anything else usually. Not often its all of us at one time though. We do try and arrange a good piss up at least once a year where we are all there, usually involving a trip to Pittodrie and followed by lots of alcohol. Apart from that I occasionally see folk from school days out and about but there arent any people I dont keep in touch with that I wish I did.

I find it a bit weird when people only seem to have a social life involving their mates from school to be honest.

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I'm still in contact with most of my friends from school, but we had a pretty close group to begin with. Some of them have moved away, moved back, settled down and got married but we still see each other fairly regularly even if it's nowhere near as much as we used to.

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I do with about 4 quite regulary mainly because we were and still are quite close. Don't understand why people request digital friendships purely because we happened to go to the same school at the same time. It's obviously not as black and white as that, though it all seems a bit hollow; almost like 'keeping up appearances'.

In the facebook format, I guess you feel obliged to 'accept' or 'add' someone from school because, although you have literally nothing to say to that person, it's the done thing, or would have been several years ago if your lives were running in the same circles.

I guess the same can be attributed to former work colleages, you'd form relationships with these people you'd see day in day out, but only for the purpose of social compliance. My thoughts are people are in your life for as long as they should be. Thats not to sound cold and calculated, mainly applies if neither party makes the effort.

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I only keep in touch with two people from my school.

One I started school with and have therefore known for 30 years. As far as I'm concerned he is an honorary brother.

The other is only a technicality - he was the year above me at school so we didn't talk then. He took a year out after school and then started the same course at the same uni as me. So it depends how you read "people from school", but I thought I'd mention it.

No-one else made it. I haven't seen anyone else (save for occasional awkward bumping into events in late teens/early 20s) for 17 years. Time may mellow me eventually, for the most part I'm glad of it.

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I guess the same can be attributed to former work colleages, you'd form relationships with these people you'd see day in day out, but only for the purpose of social compliance. My thoughts are people are in your life for as long as they should be. Thats not to sound cold and calculated, mainly applies if neither party makes the effort.

Aye I can see where you're coming from.

I have one friend from my teens (different school...he's a Brocher) who I talk/text/email/visit on a regular basis. The rest of my "friends" are folk I've met through work or music. If I'm being honest, I tend keep in touch with folk if I'm in the "circle" of what I'm doing at the time. Apart from the Broch gadgie

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I haven' t kept in touch with anyone from school and have no desire to.

Even including my best friends at the time, 20 years after leaving school I kind of think we wouldn't have much in common.

...besides, most of them went to work on fishing boats.

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Interesting question.

Personally, I am not in really close touch with anyone from school: I would attribute this to not being the most socially adept person in the world (bullied at primary, mental illness etc) and not really going through various stages of growing up with the purpose of keeping in touch with people, the same applies to the folk I went to college with.

Having said that, I still do see a fair few people from the older days out and about (less so since I quit drinking and frequented the pubs and suchlike) and quite happily get along, and the annual Christmas sessions in the Western where the old alumni get together are a cracking occasion.

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I have a few on my Facebook. I read their updates. Their lives sound shit. I like this. One of them is a right poser cunt, and she annoys me. She speaks about her school days as if she was some sort of elite muso back then, when she pottered about in her Kappa's, singing A1 songs at the back of the school bus with the smokers and the ne'er do wells. She's knocked up with her boyfriends name inked on her shoulder. Christ, what a mess.

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I keep in touch with probably 7 or 8 folk from school, and the same from uni. My social network is really made up of folk I've met through bands and friends I've made post-uni. Then again, I am an old bastard.

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I had forgotten about most of their existences until Facebook.

I had a dream last night that a guy I haven't seen since school had been contracted to kill me and was chasing me with a rifle. My girlfriend told him where I was hiding on the premise that everybody needs a job and he wouldn't get paid unless he killed me. I was raging with her this morning.

Cool story bro.

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Guest Tam o' Shantie

I find it a bit weird when people only seem to have a social life involving their mates from school to be honest.

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Two; Claire de Barros and another girl who I've been friends with since nursery.

Facebook keeps me abreast of how wonderfully everyone is doing though.

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My best pal at school lives in Dingwall, so hardly ever see him nowadays. My other good pal from then died a few years ago. My long-time 'best pal' of the 70s & 80s relocated to London when he got married.

*checks oxters for fragrance*

I've always tended to have a current girlfriend as 'best-pal', and have no need to contact old school chums, although when I bump into them it's fine.

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I keep in touch with all my school pals, I am only 22 mind you so maybe this will be different in a few years. Most of my friends from school were top folk that I have more in common with than anyone I have met since leaving school. I maybe don't phone them up every week, or every 3 months, but thats not something I do. when we meet up it is like nothing has changed really, even though we've all totally changed. I think that is a sign of a good friend. Probably about 4 or 5 of them will be friends for life I reckon, in some way or another. Most of my friends are going into careers about now, so maybe that will change things. However, my two best mates are musicians.

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I left school an alarming 21 years ago and still have some contact with a couple of people, although not on a regular basis. Most other people I went to school with I'd be pretty alarmed to meet these days. One of the perks of living 500 miles away from where I grew up is that I'm unlikely to bump into any of them most of the time.

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Think there's close to a dozen guys from school (left about 8 and a half years ago) I still see on a regular basis, a few others come into my work every now and then and I catch up with them then. Still in touch with three or four folk I used to work with from four years ago as well, not including the random mass of them on my facebook.

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I keep in touch with my best friend from high school. She was the first person I met when we started 12 years ago. Although when I went to uni we didn't see each other all that often even when she moved to Aberdeen too but when we did catch up it started where it left off. She's recently moved back to Glasgow so hopefully I'll see her more often.

Got a few other friends that I see every 3-6 months and we meet up for birthdays etc. My friendship group is mostly made up of people from uni and people I've met since I moved back to Glasgow.

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Someone from High School added me on Facebook on Friday. Back then, he was fat, and had ginger hair. I used to call him things like fatty, and ginner. These days, he's still a red top, but he's beefed up as fuck. It actually looks like the work of steroids and bench pressing mini buses. He's going to come and crush me into a human cube. Fuck sake. Just my luck.

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