presents fall into certain categories for me. a present that has a purpose and will get used regardless of what it is. a present that hasn't got much use other than the sentimental attachment. my dad is hard to buy for, because he is not into sentiment, I will buy him something that he will use. like a item of clothing or a product like aftershave. mum - I can get any trinket or sentimental piece, either a nice ornament or a plaque with a witty saying etc. she is in her element. seriously if your mum can't ask for something why bother, if she can't see past the act kindness regarding the present and the though of doing it. seems weird.