If your partner/bf/gf/wife/husband cheated on you - aberdeen-music

Hogisbald · 13-08-2005, 20:32

Would you forgive?

trippinoneastereggs · 13-08-2005, 20:35

Depends.

when I was in hals a couple of years ago the girl i was seeing was shagging one of my flatmates for three weeks. All my flatmates knew but nobody told me. I dont speak to her or my flatmates anymore

David · 13-08-2005, 20:48

i guess it would depend on the circumstances and how serious, did she just get drunk and snog a mate? or has she been shagging someone for weeks...

ultimately, i couldnt trust anyone that would cheat, so it wouldnt last

David

Fluffy · 13-08-2005, 20:50

Yes, if it was a once off and he promised not to do it again. However, if it was more than once and esp if it was more than sex, i would make him pay....... dearly!

13-08-2005, 20:52

If she committed to doing a*a*, then yes.

Otherwise I'd only settle for h**d.

catherine · 13-08-2005, 23:28

if he did it now. then no.

Swingin' Ryan · 14-08-2005, 00:30

Quote:

Originally Posted by David

i guess it would depend on the circumstances

Agreed. However, I've had my fill, from now on I'm throwing fists...(obviously not at the girlfriend, that wouldn't be cool).

succubitch · 14-08-2005, 06:53

I'd make full use of my cabinet of weapons.

14-08-2005, 07:07

i'd throw my heaviest juggling club at them

Marillionboy · 14-08-2005, 07:30

I could never forgive, and its strange because I could certainly understand how easy it is to succumb to it.

The thing about cheating is, alcohol is not ever an excuse. People who claim it is are simply hiding behind a crap excuse and not taking responsibility. Drunk or sober you know what you're doing would break your partner's heart. if you're sober enough to have sex you are sober enough to remember you are attached.

The other thing is that cheating rarely has "nothing to do with the person you're cheating on". Its usually the fact that you are doing something illicit that gives cheating the spice.

What's more telling your partner to nsalve your own conscience is bloody selfish, people don't need to know things like that.

I wouldn't ever have someone back who cheated on me because I've got too much self-respect and I'd be eaten up with jealousy, and yet I'm hardly a saint myself. That isn't hypocrisy, simply that I know that jealousy would eat me up.

Of course if she cheated on me with another girl it would be different.