If your partner/bf/gf/wife/husband cheated on you - Page 2 - aberdeen-music

Sue Denim.. · 14-08-2005, 08:38

No .... never.

Teabags · 14-08-2005, 09:12

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Originally Posted by Fluffy

Yes, if it was a once off and he promised not to do it again. However, if it was more than once and [b]esp if it was more than sex[b], i would make him pay....... dearly!

what constitutes more than sex? golden showers and raising children?

lepeep · 14-08-2005, 10:38

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Originally Posted by thurisaz

what constitutes more than sex? golden showers and raising children?

I think she might have been talking about "getting intimate"...far worse than sex...remember, girls think differently to guys....

remember the jam sketch?
"I'm leaving you! you had sex with the girl who came to our party!"
"oh, ha ha, no no no, you misunderstand, I just raped her, she didn't want it".
"oh, ahhh, that's alright then, sorry, do you forgive me for jumping to that conclusion ?"...
(something like that anyway!)

jimr · 14-08-2005, 10:43

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Originally Posted by Marillionboy

I could never forgive, and its strange because I could certainly understand how easy it is to succumb to it.

The thing about cheating is, alcohol is not ever an excuse. People who claim it is are simply hiding behind a crap excuse and not taking responsibility. Drunk or sober you know what you're doing would break your partner's heart. if you're sober enough to have sex you are sober enough to remember you are attached.

The other thing is that cheating rarely has "nothing to do with the person you're cheating on". Its usually the fact that you are doing something illicit that gives cheating the spice.

What's more telling your partner to nsalve your own conscience is bloody selfish, people don't need to know things like that.

I wouldn't ever have someone back who cheated on me because I've got too much self-respect and I'd be eaten up with jealousy, and yet I'm hardly a saint myself. That isn't hypocrisy, simply that I know that jealousy would eat me up.

Of course if she cheated on me with another girl it would be different.

I think anyone who has woken up in a strangers house and whose last memory was ordering 2 bottles of wine and 2 shot glasses, will testify that you are being incredibily naive.

jimr · 14-08-2005, 10:46

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Originally Posted by lepeep

I think she might have been talking about "getting intimate"...far worse than sex...remember, girls think differently to guys....

remember the jam sketch?
"I'm leaving you! you had sex with the girl who came to our party!"
"oh, ha ha, no no no, you misunderstand, I just raped her, she didn't want it".
"oh, ahhh, that's alright then, sorry, do you forgive me for jumping to that conclusion ?"...
(something like that anyway!)

I love the camera effects on that sketch.

14-08-2005, 11:00

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Originally Posted by jimr

I think anyone who has woken up in a strangers house and whose last memory was ordering 2 bottles of wine and 2 shot glasses, will testify that you are being incredibily naive.

i think if you drank that much you could probably be safe in the knowledge that nothing happened other than falling unconsious.

Jeid · 14-08-2005, 11:29

i've done it, i've had it done. both sides suck.

i'm such a jealous person now that i don't think i'd ever forgive anyone who cheated on me. i couldn't. it would eat me up. i couldn't trust a partner who did that and that would mean the bitter end. no trust = no relationship

Fluffy · 14-08-2005, 12:14

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Originally Posted by thurisaz

what constitutes more than sex? golden showers and raising children?

If it was just sex, no feelings invovled i dont mind so much. where as if it was an affair, and he fell in love or had strong feelings for her, i would be gutted.

i also would be upset if he snogged someone else too, but i am hoping none of this will ever happen

Ghostwriter · 14-08-2005, 12:31

Part of me thinks that I am too strong willed, so I would tell my boyfriend to sling his hook. However, the other part of me KNOWS that I'd end up taking him back. But I'd only let that happen once.

Teabags · 14-08-2005, 12:32

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Originally Posted by Fluffy

If it was just sex, no feelings invovled i dont mind so much. where as if it was an affair, and he fell in love or had strong feelings for her, i would be gutted.

i also would be upset if he snogged someone else too, but i am hoping none of this will ever happen

so if he shagged some random bint whose name he doesnt even know and has no intention of speaking to/seeing again, that'd be okay.

but if he snogged someone, you'd be upset?