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Hogisbald · **Bullying? -** 12-05-2005, 11:34

Read an article about it today and it got me thinking. Anyone been bullied? It has to be the most shitty thing ever.

When I was at school I was bullied for being small (now 6 foot so it doesnt apply now). Going to school wondering if I was going to get a kicking is really crappy.

The irony was that after a couple of years I grew up and one day I turned round and smacked one of the guys who bullied me. So, why do they do it? Inferiority complex, shit home life?

MarkJDelaney · 12-05-2005, 11:39

I think it often stems from themselves being bullied, hard home-life or simply other mental issues unknown to us. I think it's sometimes down to people being full of themselves, aspiring to be the "big-man", the one they idolise. They soon realise though, there's someone bigger and "stronger" than them, and they change their ways. Either that, or the smart ones realise what they're actually doing.

Hogisbald · 12-05-2005, 13:02

Certainly a lot of them are thick as shit

lindeh · 12-05-2005, 13:11

Despite having squint eyes, virtually no neck and being half deaf, I was surprisingly never bullied...
Although from there was one girl who had a phase of 'following' me home because some friends took my side over hers- pathetic.

Birdman · 12-05-2005, 13:18

"Bullying: We all do it and we all love it!" - Back of the Y - Danny parker

(Not Birdman)

HummerOfIntenseEvil · 12-05-2005, 13:19

I think bullying is also a lot to do with the victim's state of mind... I was a chubby, bespectacled short-arse at school (well, still am), but I never really got bullied, and I think that was a lot to do with the fact that I never let it get to me when folk DID pick on me - I was always able to take the piss back if it was verbal, and I was never shy of throwing a few punches if need be.

As for the actual bullies themselves, I would think it's purely a result of an unhappy homelife, and that leads them to try and inflict their perceived power onto others. Or something.

lindeh · 12-05-2005, 13:21

Hmm in some cases the bullies like to be 'popular'- if you're intimidating, people are sometimes going to be part of the gang to save their own skin. In some warped way, they may see themselves as popular. If that makes ANY sense! (3hrs sleep does this to me!)

Fluffy · 12-05-2005, 13:23

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Originally Posted by HummerOfIntenseEvil

I think bullying is also a lot to do with the victim's state of mind... I was a chubby, bespectacled short-arse at school (well, still am), but I never really got bullied, and I think that was a lot to do with the fact that I never let it get to me when folk DID pick on me - I was always able to take the piss back if it was verbal, and I was never shy of throwing a few punches if need be.

I think you have a real point there. in primary school and first few years of secondary i got buillied- verbal and intimidation. but later on, 5th year i started losing my hair and funnily enough no one really said anything (not to my face). i think this is because i was much more confident, knew its not my fault it fell out and it showed.
was also a cocky little bitch - still am lol!

EDIT: that got me a neg scene point. how bloody pathetic, esp as there as no reason

connie · 12-05-2005, 14:12

Everyone bullies, and most people have been bullied.

Fact of life.

Alkaline · 12-05-2005, 14:19

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Originally Posted by connie

Everyone bullies, and most people have been bullied.

Fact of life.

I agree, i was bullied at school cause of the music i listened too and cause i was fat. I just came to terms with the fact that it was gonna happen regardless of what i did.